Comments on: Now that you’ve found a good man http://onelifestand.blogsome.com/2007/06/25/now-that-youve-found-a-good-man/ This is a one life stand... Thu, 08 Jan 2009 00:39:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: TJ http://onelifestand.blogsome.com/2007/06/25/now-that-youve-found-a-good-man/#comment-323 Thu, 28 Jun 2007 17:31:23 +0100 http://onelifestand.blogsome.com/2007/06/25/now-that-youve-found-a-good-man/#comment-323 To be honest I haven't dated any blue collar men. But I have friends that have and the problem that I've heard comes up time and time again is money, and I guess social graces (for lack of a better word). When the white collar woman made more money it was always an issue that got thrown out there during an arguement. And my friend was concerned about how her husband behaved at corporate events and other occassions. Her husband was speaking to a VP at her company christmas partt and she was terrified that he may say something inappropriate. To be honest I haven’t dated any blue collar men. But I have friends that have and the problem that I’ve heard comes up time and time again is money, and I guess social graces (for lack of a better word). When the white collar woman made more money it was always an issue that got thrown out there during an arguement. And my friend was concerned about how her husband behaved at corporate events and other occassions. Her husband was speaking to a VP at her company christmas partt and she was terrified that he may say something inappropriate.

]]> by: Nikita http://onelifestand.blogsome.com/2007/06/25/now-that-youve-found-a-good-man/#comment-321 Thu, 28 Jun 2007 10:16:03 +0100 http://onelifestand.blogsome.com/2007/06/25/now-that-youve-found-a-good-man/#comment-321 Well, I am a daughter of a blue collar worker, and frankly, much like other good men they take care of business & take care of home. My suggestion is that she focuses and makes sure that she states clearly that she is interested in the quality of the man and a job says nothing - absolutely nothing - about the quality of who a man is. A job says nothing about his character, his willingness to sacrifice, to cover, to care and be tender with her, to go the extra mile for her benefit it is just a job with a title. If he is happy with what he does, be happy with and for him. I have never known money or a job title to keep a marriage - a GREAT marriage, together. Love, understanding, honesty, support etc. has and does on a daily basis everyday. Now if he can't or won't do, that is one thing, but if they are happy together and he takes care of business, tell the fam and all friends to go kick rocks in a dark corner preferrably far away from them. Well, I am a daughter of a blue collar worker, and frankly, much like other good men they take care of business & take care of home. My suggestion is that she focuses and makes sure that she states clearly that she is interested in the quality of the man and a job says nothing - absolutely nothing - about the quality of who a man is. A job says nothing about his character, his willingness to sacrifice, to cover, to care and be tender with her, to go the extra mile for her benefit it is just a job with a title. If he is happy with what he does, be happy with and for him. I have never known money or a job title to keep a marriage - a GREAT marriage, together. Love, understanding, honesty, support etc. has and does on a daily basis everyday. Now if he can’t or won’t do, that is one thing, but if they are happy together and he takes care of business, tell the fam and all friends to go kick rocks in a dark corner preferrably far away from them.

]]> by: Miz JJ http://onelifestand.blogsome.com/2007/06/25/now-that-youve-found-a-good-man/#comment-319 Wed, 27 Jun 2007 22:24:59 +0100 http://onelifestand.blogsome.com/2007/06/25/now-that-youve-found-a-good-man/#comment-319 I always hear how people should give blue collar men a chance. This has me thinking about post I should write. As for your friend...if her man treats her well then everyone else should not matter. They do not have to live her life. She does. You can not live your life by committee. Well, you can, but forget that. I always hear how people should give blue collar men a chance. This has me thinking about post I should write. As for your friend…if her man treats her well then everyone else should not matter. They do not have to live her life. She does. You can not live your life by committee. Well, you can, but forget that.

]]> by: CreoleInDC http://onelifestand.blogsome.com/2007/06/25/now-that-youve-found-a-good-man/#comment-318 Wed, 27 Jun 2007 20:04:07 +0100 http://onelifestand.blogsome.com/2007/06/25/now-that-youve-found-a-good-man/#comment-318 To be honest...I've only dated one blue collar man. He was a fireman. Nothing wrong with the profession...in fact...one of the MOST honorable. However...I found that I never was in an environment to meet a blue collar guy so I guess I gravitated to more of what I was personally familiar with. This is interesting. I hope you don't mind if I link it. To be honest…I’ve only dated one blue collar man. He was a fireman. Nothing wrong with the profession…in fact…one of the MOST honorable.

However…I found that I never was in an environment to meet a blue collar guy so I guess I gravitated to more of what I was personally familiar with.

This is interesting. I hope you don’t mind if I link it.

]]> by: shai http://onelifestand.blogsome.com/2007/06/25/now-that-youve-found-a-good-man/#comment-317 Wed, 27 Jun 2007 14:19:09 +0100 http://onelifestand.blogsome.com/2007/06/25/now-that-youve-found-a-good-man/#comment-317 Personally, if I got a man my fam would fall out. Then of course they would still have something to say or joke about. There is a saying: "What you think of me isn't any of my business." I am slowly learning to follow that. As for the blue collar thing, if he takes care of business then who cares. Also, if he has other progressive goals in life who cares if he is blue collar. In the end, is she happy with their relationship. Those folks aren't in the relationship. Plus if she has her parents support why bother about the others. When I was growing up, I thought being a "suit" and marrying one would be the ultimate. Then I looked at my father figure who raised a family off his blue collar job and he had college education and I was like as long as he makes me happy and takes care of business who cares what collar he wears. Ok I am getting off my soapbox. LOL. Personally, if I got a man my fam would fall out. Then of course they would still have something to say or joke about. There is a saying: “What you think of me isn’t any of my business.” I am slowly learning to follow that.

As for the blue collar thing, if he takes care of business then who cares. Also, if he has other progressive goals in life who cares if he is blue collar. In the end, is she happy with their relationship. Those folks aren’t in the relationship. Plus if she has her parents support why bother about the others.

When I was growing up, I thought being a “suit” and marrying one would be the ultimate. Then I looked at my father figure who raised a family off his blue collar job and he had college education and I was like as long as he makes me happy and takes care of business who cares what collar he wears.

Ok I am getting off my soapbox. LOL.

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